ESCAPING PUBERTY (2) (Compliments and Criticism)

 

#PeopleOfEarth the things that young people do in trying to crossover from adolescence to adulthood are sometimes very funny. Some girls spend most of their time pricing bras and wishing they can make the oranges grow faster. And when these oranges refuse to ‘fate’ its ‘growth’ on ‘wishes,’ they support them with foams or any clothing materials #fakebreasts. I remember those days that girls used to look beautiful on puff-puff hairstyle, but young girls today want to make hair worth of a plot of land in some parts of Lagos, yet the hair would not last for more than two weeks #HairOfLife.

I remember those days that boys use to run around naked and their ‘microphones’ dangling like a school bell in the hands of a non-prefect and no one saw reasons to sing off-key with them. Bathing outside was normal and fun, but these days girls of 7 years will insist on bathing inside because she does not want them to see her invincible breasts and a boy will argue he does not want them to see that he only has one single hair on his microphone. Boys paint eye pencil and powder in order to attract desired attention #HomoAlert and on weekends #fries their hair in the name of relaxing it, go #TeamOyahkilome. Girls wanting the latest trend designs they see through the medias, internet and fashion magazines. It’s just too bad they can’t find such in #BalogunMarket.

As I said in part one, the level of concentration on oneself is very high and at this stage we are very sensitive to compliments and criticism. Most parents reading this or adults who have younger siblings, should note this, at this stage the level of sensitivity is very high and reactions to issues matters a lot. Every human craves for compliment, consciously or unconsciously. We long to hear nice things about ourselves and it feels good to hear people tell us sincerely what we want to hear. Even the ones that long to be called ‘bad’ or seen as one craves for compliment without them knowing they crave for it. Calling them ‘good’ is like calling them ‘bad,’ and to them that is pure criticism.

“You fine o”

“Fresh…infact you frosh die!”

“Yez boss…swaggu on point!”

“Girl you garrit, all your qualities nah skelewu and my heart dey dance shoki for you,”

“You make sense die, yez boss!”

“Who said you’re fine?”

“You’re ugly and dirty!”

“I have nothing to say about you than to wish I can have the right words to describe how ugly you look,”

The way they react to these matters a lot more than we think. 

REACTION

Some may decide to talk about how they feel, while others may decide to bottle it in, which is very dangerous. Whatever the purpose may be, to compliment or to criticize bottling-it-in is really dangerous, and sometimes talking too much about is deadly. Sometimes we just need to talk to someone, even if we that person will not proffer solution, it’s still good to talk. Because it’s like reliving yourself off something very heavy after talking about your problems or concerns and you feel that truly someone has listen to you that alone is refreshing. As I said in Part One, ‘Because whatever habit one cannot leave as a youth, it’s very hard, I repeat very hard to leave as an adult.’ 

Memories might end up tormenting us if we keep quiet about them. Talk about that boy or girl, ask question on mensuration/masturbation, ask question and talk to someone about that particular thing bugging you, don’t wave it off!

Comment your questions below and I’ll be here waiting to give answers to them all.

(Read Part 3 on Masturbation and Part 4 Sex Addiction)

-Beautiful

ESCAPING PUBERTY (1)

 

#PeopleOfEarth when a girl starts noticing two oranges popping from her chest and boys starring at her longer than before, she would change some things about her. Like the length of time she spends in the bathroom, the length of time she uses in doing her make-up, and picking a dress to wear, the way she walks and the way she talks especially how her  ‘Yewz wharis it’ comes out. Sometimes she changes her cream and joins #TeamBleaching and her taste in ‘okirika’ improves to another grade, but definitely keeping the culture of #BendDownSelect. The most interesting part is when she joins the social community, like Facebook, Twitter, Whatsapp, 2go, BBM.  And she send request to guys and when they reply, she would be like ‘yes do I know you?’  Durr! ‘Who know m**key wey send request’ Or she says this all the time ‘I can’t chat right now, am busy’ come on, busy washing your pan…?.

When a guy starts noticing a girl, he spends more time washing his boxers so he can do the sagging thing to show he is a big boy, go #TeamPrisoners. He spends time ‘rubbing spirit’ or ‘ogogoro’ on his chin in order to grow mustache, and fights with his barber all the time for attempting to touch his barren chin. He improves in his #LyingSkill and spends more time listening to how it sounds whenever he says ‘I love you.’ He increase his number of visits to eateries, asking the price of products before taking a girl there, else gengen is his case. He spends time learning the latest cheat for browsing for free so he could #chyk that girl. (To know more funny things boys/girls do, read ESCAPING PUBERTY 2).

However, this stage is a very crucial stage in anybody’s life and is a time when we can decide to make or mar our life, sometimes without knowing we have made such an important decision. It’s a time when one needs to know his/her values, choose friends and place priorities. If one misses it now it can be very hard to recover from it or even ever knowing it. Because whatever habit one cannot leave as a youth, it’s very hard, I repeat very hard to leave as an adult.  Read Escaping Puberty daily to help you build your life or rediscover the right part.

(ESCAPING PUBERTY has 13 interesting and educating Series and each episode would be publish daily)

                                                                                                                                                     -Beautiful

SPEECH OF LIFE JUST TO ASK FOR HER NUMBER

#PeopleOfEarth there are so many things a guy should consider before approaching a girl. Some guys just want to ask a girl for her number because ‘omo she garit’. Anytime she walks by, it seems the world should pause for them to have a chance with her. Believe it or not, the way you are doing your ‘rehearsals of life,’ to speak to her, so also someone else is rehearsing the lines to use too. Nah WAEC? Take it easy nah! Must you turn up your nose like that all in the name of fone? Learn from Tu-face whenever he visits a street within a week at least 5 girls would be pregnant. He does need special rehearsals, he is very natural.

I think everybody one way or the other might have approach a girl before and we have our own experiences. Sometimes these experiences guard us and sometimes it’s as if we have no experience at all…yeah! Especially when she is that kind of girl that knocks you out completely.

The most ridiculous thing a guy will do is to approach a girl wrongly. Abba! It’s a big ‘f**k-up and ‘falling of hand.’ Imagine if a pepper seller whom managed to buy ‘first hand okirika’ and the only thing on her mind is to get the attention of Abudu the shoemaker and you, an humble Cambridge graduate approaching her with your rehearsed ‘speech of life’:

You “Hi”

Her “Guruaftunun”

You “I believe you’re a homosapien?”

 Her “Wetin u talk?”

You  “No, as a homosapien you don’t have to be quiet about the situation of this country. Whatever may be the oracular oration of the police in denuding Tambuwal of his security apparatchik, this is one diaphanous exempli gratia of scabrous impunity, institutional desecration and executive apacheism which must be pooh poohed by all compos mentis homosapiens and its hereby pooh poohed and remains pooh poohed.” (Hon. Patrick Obahiagbon)

Let’s not be deceived by what most people wear. Sometimes they are not what they appeared to be. Do your research and find out about a girl before approaching her. Sometimes you don’t need to do that, because sometimes they are actually what they appear to be. And please be natural as possible; do not bite your tongue because you want to use that particular word. Gbangan! Is one of the biggest mistakes a guy would make while talking to a girl. “Go for it, learn from it, be good at it and next time be ready for it.”

                                                                                                                                     -Beautiful

DID YOU TELL YOUR PARENT YOU HAD SEX?

(Don’t read if you won’t learn)

I wonder what the expression on the faces of some parents would be if they discover the kind of stuffs their own children can do in bed.  Hmmmhmmm #discoveryworld. If you are a parent, you will be surprise to know how much your son/daughter knows more about sex than you do. But thanks to you, you help them subscribe every month to access the internet and see things for themselves. I can bet they are seeing things, things that surprise the devil himself. These children play in big leagues #championsleague I guess and their parents might still be playing in the #localleague. How many of us can tell our parents we had sex?

But in those days it happened. A girl would tell her mother before and after having sex, and a son would shake hands with his father and uncles. Back in those days when a mother would spend time teaching her daughter how to perform in bed, those days when a father would encourage his son to create a record in the village, those days that people could speak boldly about sex. But in this age, where everybody is discreet about sex and claiming one tin, one tin, we have so many people that have issues with sex, even married couples. I marvel each time I hear how in those days when a mother would wait outside the door where her daughter was being ‘lectured’ with the ‘rod.’ How she would stay and listen to her daughter’s soundtracks and wait for the unexpected. And in the morning when the groom would have left the room, she would go in and speak to her daughter, addressing every issues, questions and doubts she might have. Reassuring her she just played the ‘sweetest game’ in life and now she understood why she knows why she loves ‘banana’ so much.

Couples drift apart, broken marriage and divorce occurs constantly and not talking about ‘sex’ might be one of the major reasons why. Most of us believe God is too holy to be talk to about sex, but have you forgotten that he created sex, talk to Him about it. If you cannot talk to your parents to counsel you, talk to God, talk to someone who can be of help and if you are not old enough or ready don’t do it.

Some people just want to have sex, and that is a problem. Their stories and gist about sex and many just want to know what this is all about. But are you old enough to have sex? Are you old enough to have a child or be in a marriage? Are you old enough to handle whatever responsibilities come with sex, If you are not ready why the rush? Who said it would lose its sweetness if you wait.

WHY DO YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX

You might have heard from couples or in a movie where the term “making love” was used. There is a big difference between ‘making love’ and ‘f**king’. Couples ‘make love’ to have babies or enjoy themselves and the love they share, people ‘f**k’ to quench their lust. And as far as I am concerned that lust, that hole, that emptiness can never be filled with just thrusting your ‘rod’ or being thrust by it. STOP!

Who are you having sex with? Your wife/ husband or…? Sex can ruin your relationship or boost it, it all depend on the kind of relationship and the foundation of it. The purpose of any relationship that involves hugging, kissing or curdling is marriage, if you have something else in mind ‘O Y O’ (own your own) is your case. Before going into any relationship, pray to God, if you are already in a one still pray to God, because He is The Beginning and The End. Everything starts with Him and ends with Him. And make sure you keep away from sex if you are not ready, don’t let anyone force you. Purpose your relationship for marriage otherwise you will keep deceiving yourself, wasting your time and life and helping the other party do same. Sex is a beautiful thing; wait and you will enjoy it.

Hold My Hands

People of Earth now is the time to make a change in our world!!!!
Brothers, sisters and fellow people of the earth the world is our country, all human our brothers and doing good our religion. Hold hands as we make a positive change in our relationship, career, business and society.