#PeopleOfEarth the things that young people do in trying
to crossover from adolescence to adulthood are sometimes very funny. Some girls
spend most of their time pricing bras and wishing they can make the oranges
grow faster. And when these oranges refuse to ‘fate’ its ‘growth’ on ‘wishes,’
they support them with foams or any clothing materials #fakebreasts. I remember
those days that girls used to look beautiful on puff-puff hairstyle, but young
girls today want to make hair worth of a plot of land in some parts of Lagos,
yet the hair would not last for more than two weeks #HairOfLife.
I remember those days that boys use to run around naked
and their ‘microphones’ dangling like a school bell in the hands of a
non-prefect and no one saw reasons to sing off-key with them. Bathing outside
was normal and fun, but these days girls of 7 years will insist on bathing
inside because she does not want them to see her invincible breasts and a boy
will argue he does not want them to see that he only has one single hair on his
microphone. Boys paint eye pencil and powder in order to attract desired
attention #HomoAlert and on weekends #fries their hair in the name of relaxing
it, go #TeamOyahkilome. Girls wanting the latest trend designs they see through
the medias, internet and fashion magazines. It’s just too bad they can’t find
such in #BalogunMarket.
As I said in part one, the level of concentration on
oneself is very high and at this stage we are very sensitive to compliments and
criticism. Most parents reading this or adults who have younger siblings,
should note this, at this stage the level of sensitivity is very high and
reactions to issues matters a lot. Every human craves for compliment,
consciously or unconsciously. We long to hear nice things about ourselves and
it feels good to hear people tell us sincerely what we want to hear. Even the
ones that long to be called ‘bad’ or seen as one craves for
compliment without them knowing they crave for it. Calling them ‘good’ is like
calling them ‘bad,’ and to them that is pure criticism.
“You fine o”
“Fresh…infact you
frosh die!”
“Yez boss…swaggu
on point!”
“Girl you garrit, all
your qualities nah skelewu and my heart dey dance shoki for you,”
“You make sense
die, yez boss!”
“Who said you’re
fine?”
“You’re ugly and
dirty!”
“I have nothing to
say about you than to wish I can have the right words to describe how ugly you
look,”
The way they react to these matters a lot more than we think.
REACTION
Some may decide to talk about how they feel, while others
may decide to bottle it in, which is very dangerous. Whatever the purpose may
be, to compliment or to criticize bottling-it-in is really dangerous, and
sometimes talking too much about is deadly. Sometimes we just need to talk to
someone, even if we that person will not proffer solution, it’s still good to
talk. Because it’s like reliving yourself off something very heavy after
talking about your problems or concerns and you feel that truly someone has
listen to you that alone is refreshing. As I said in Part One, ‘Because whatever habit one
cannot leave as a youth, it’s very hard, I repeat very hard to leave as an adult.’
Memories might end up tormenting us if we keep quiet
about them. Talk about that boy or girl, ask question on
mensuration/masturbation, ask question and talk to someone about that
particular thing bugging you, don’t wave it off!
Comment your questions below and I’ll be here waiting to
give answers to them all.
(Read Part 3 on Masturbation and Part 4 Sex Addiction)
-Beautiful
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