ESCAPING PUBERTY (2) (Compliments and Criticism)

 

#PeopleOfEarth the things that young people do in trying to crossover from adolescence to adulthood are sometimes very funny. Some girls spend most of their time pricing bras and wishing they can make the oranges grow faster. And when these oranges refuse to ‘fate’ its ‘growth’ on ‘wishes,’ they support them with foams or any clothing materials #fakebreasts. I remember those days that girls used to look beautiful on puff-puff hairstyle, but young girls today want to make hair worth of a plot of land in some parts of Lagos, yet the hair would not last for more than two weeks #HairOfLife.

I remember those days that boys use to run around naked and their ‘microphones’ dangling like a school bell in the hands of a non-prefect and no one saw reasons to sing off-key with them. Bathing outside was normal and fun, but these days girls of 7 years will insist on bathing inside because she does not want them to see her invincible breasts and a boy will argue he does not want them to see that he only has one single hair on his microphone. Boys paint eye pencil and powder in order to attract desired attention #HomoAlert and on weekends #fries their hair in the name of relaxing it, go #TeamOyahkilome. Girls wanting the latest trend designs they see through the medias, internet and fashion magazines. It’s just too bad they can’t find such in #BalogunMarket.

As I said in part one, the level of concentration on oneself is very high and at this stage we are very sensitive to compliments and criticism. Most parents reading this or adults who have younger siblings, should note this, at this stage the level of sensitivity is very high and reactions to issues matters a lot. Every human craves for compliment, consciously or unconsciously. We long to hear nice things about ourselves and it feels good to hear people tell us sincerely what we want to hear. Even the ones that long to be called ‘bad’ or seen as one craves for compliment without them knowing they crave for it. Calling them ‘good’ is like calling them ‘bad,’ and to them that is pure criticism.

“You fine o”

“Fresh…infact you frosh die!”

“Yez boss…swaggu on point!”

“Girl you garrit, all your qualities nah skelewu and my heart dey dance shoki for you,”

“You make sense die, yez boss!”

“Who said you’re fine?”

“You’re ugly and dirty!”

“I have nothing to say about you than to wish I can have the right words to describe how ugly you look,”

The way they react to these matters a lot more than we think. 

REACTION

Some may decide to talk about how they feel, while others may decide to bottle it in, which is very dangerous. Whatever the purpose may be, to compliment or to criticize bottling-it-in is really dangerous, and sometimes talking too much about is deadly. Sometimes we just need to talk to someone, even if we that person will not proffer solution, it’s still good to talk. Because it’s like reliving yourself off something very heavy after talking about your problems or concerns and you feel that truly someone has listen to you that alone is refreshing. As I said in Part One, ‘Because whatever habit one cannot leave as a youth, it’s very hard, I repeat very hard to leave as an adult.’ 

Memories might end up tormenting us if we keep quiet about them. Talk about that boy or girl, ask question on mensuration/masturbation, ask question and talk to someone about that particular thing bugging you, don’t wave it off!

Comment your questions below and I’ll be here waiting to give answers to them all.

(Read Part 3 on Masturbation and Part 4 Sex Addiction)

-Beautiful

ESCAPING PUBERTY (1)

 

#PeopleOfEarth when a girl starts noticing two oranges popping from her chest and boys starring at her longer than before, she would change some things about her. Like the length of time she spends in the bathroom, the length of time she uses in doing her make-up, and picking a dress to wear, the way she walks and the way she talks especially how her  ‘Yewz wharis it’ comes out. Sometimes she changes her cream and joins #TeamBleaching and her taste in ‘okirika’ improves to another grade, but definitely keeping the culture of #BendDownSelect. The most interesting part is when she joins the social community, like Facebook, Twitter, Whatsapp, 2go, BBM.  And she send request to guys and when they reply, she would be like ‘yes do I know you?’  Durr! ‘Who know m**key wey send request’ Or she says this all the time ‘I can’t chat right now, am busy’ come on, busy washing your pan…?.

When a guy starts noticing a girl, he spends more time washing his boxers so he can do the sagging thing to show he is a big boy, go #TeamPrisoners. He spends time ‘rubbing spirit’ or ‘ogogoro’ on his chin in order to grow mustache, and fights with his barber all the time for attempting to touch his barren chin. He improves in his #LyingSkill and spends more time listening to how it sounds whenever he says ‘I love you.’ He increase his number of visits to eateries, asking the price of products before taking a girl there, else gengen is his case. He spends time learning the latest cheat for browsing for free so he could #chyk that girl. (To know more funny things boys/girls do, read ESCAPING PUBERTY 2).

However, this stage is a very crucial stage in anybody’s life and is a time when we can decide to make or mar our life, sometimes without knowing we have made such an important decision. It’s a time when one needs to know his/her values, choose friends and place priorities. If one misses it now it can be very hard to recover from it or even ever knowing it. Because whatever habit one cannot leave as a youth, it’s very hard, I repeat very hard to leave as an adult.  Read Escaping Puberty daily to help you build your life or rediscover the right part.

(ESCAPING PUBERTY has 13 interesting and educating Series and each episode would be publish daily)

                                                                                                                                                     -Beautiful

SPEECH OF LIFE JUST TO ASK FOR HER NUMBER

#PeopleOfEarth there are so many things a guy should consider before approaching a girl. Some guys just want to ask a girl for her number because ‘omo she garit’. Anytime she walks by, it seems the world should pause for them to have a chance with her. Believe it or not, the way you are doing your ‘rehearsals of life,’ to speak to her, so also someone else is rehearsing the lines to use too. Nah WAEC? Take it easy nah! Must you turn up your nose like that all in the name of fone? Learn from Tu-face whenever he visits a street within a week at least 5 girls would be pregnant. He does need special rehearsals, he is very natural.

I think everybody one way or the other might have approach a girl before and we have our own experiences. Sometimes these experiences guard us and sometimes it’s as if we have no experience at all…yeah! Especially when she is that kind of girl that knocks you out completely.

The most ridiculous thing a guy will do is to approach a girl wrongly. Abba! It’s a big ‘f**k-up and ‘falling of hand.’ Imagine if a pepper seller whom managed to buy ‘first hand okirika’ and the only thing on her mind is to get the attention of Abudu the shoemaker and you, an humble Cambridge graduate approaching her with your rehearsed ‘speech of life’:

You “Hi”

Her “Guruaftunun”

You “I believe you’re a homosapien?”

 Her “Wetin u talk?”

You  “No, as a homosapien you don’t have to be quiet about the situation of this country. Whatever may be the oracular oration of the police in denuding Tambuwal of his security apparatchik, this is one diaphanous exempli gratia of scabrous impunity, institutional desecration and executive apacheism which must be pooh poohed by all compos mentis homosapiens and its hereby pooh poohed and remains pooh poohed.” (Hon. Patrick Obahiagbon)

Let’s not be deceived by what most people wear. Sometimes they are not what they appeared to be. Do your research and find out about a girl before approaching her. Sometimes you don’t need to do that, because sometimes they are actually what they appear to be. And please be natural as possible; do not bite your tongue because you want to use that particular word. Gbangan! Is one of the biggest mistakes a guy would make while talking to a girl. “Go for it, learn from it, be good at it and next time be ready for it.”

                                                                                                                                     -Beautiful